vhost: allow userspace to create workers

For vhost-scsi with 3 vqs or more and a workload that tries to use
them in parallel like:

fio --filename=/dev/sdb  --direct=1 --rw=randrw --bs=4k \
--ioengine=libaio --iodepth=128  --numjobs=3

the single vhost worker thread will become a bottlneck and we are stuck
at around 500K IOPs no matter how many jobs, virtqueues, and CPUs are
used.

To better utilize virtqueues and available CPUs, this patch allows
userspace to create workers and bind them to vqs. You can have N workers
per dev and also share N workers with M vqs on that dev.

This patch adds the interface related code and the next patch will hook
vhost-scsi into it. The patches do not try to hook net and vsock into
the interface because:

1. multiple workers don't seem to help vsock. The problem is that with
only 2 virtqueues we never fully use the existing worker when doing
bidirectional tests. This seems to match vhost-scsi where we don't see
the worker as a bottleneck until 3 virtqueues are used.

2. net already has a way to use multiple workers.

Signed-off-by: Mike Christie <michael.christie@oracle.com>
Message-Id: <20230626232307.97930-16-michael.christie@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>