md: add a mutex to synchronize idle and frozen in action_store()

Currently, for idle and frozen, action_store will hold 'reconfig_mutex'
and call md_reap_sync_thread() to stop sync thread, however, this will
cause deadlock (explained in the next patch). In order to fix the
problem, following patch will release 'reconfig_mutex' and wait on
'resync_wait', like md_set_readonly() and do_md_stop() does.

Consider that action_store() will set/clear 'MD_RECOVERY_FROZEN'
unconditionally, which might cause unexpected problems, for example,
frozen just set 'MD_RECOVERY_FROZEN' and is still in progress, while
'idle' clear 'MD_RECOVERY_FROZEN' and new sync thread is started, which
might starve in progress frozen. A mutex is added to synchronize idle
and frozen from action_store().

Signed-off-by: Yu Kuai <yukuai3@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230529132037.2124527-4-yukuai1@huaweicloud.com