md: fix 'delete_mutex' deadlock

Commit 3ce94ce5 ("md: fix duplicate filename for rdev") introduce a
new lock 'delete_mutex', and trigger a new deadlock:

t1: remove rdev			t2: sysfs writer

rdev_attr_store			rdev_attr_store
 mddev_lock
 state_store
 md_kick_rdev_from_array
  lock delete_mutex
  list_add mddev->deleting
  unlock delete_mutex
 mddev_unlock
				 mddev_lock
				 ...
  lock delete_mutex
  kobject_del
  // wait for sysfs writers to be done
				 mddev_unlock
				 lock delete_mutex
				 // wait for delete_mutex, deadlock

'delete_mutex' is used to protect the list 'mddev->deleting', turns out
that this list can be protected by 'reconfig_mutex' directly, and this
lock can be removed.

Fix this problem by removing the lock, and use 'reconfig_mutex' to
protect the list. mddev_unlock() will move this list to a local list to
be handled after 'reconfig_mutex' is dropped.

Fixes: 3ce94ce5 ("md: fix duplicate filename for rdev")
Signed-off-by: Yu Kuai <yukuai3@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230621142933.1395629-1-yukuai1@huaweicloud.com