md: protect md_thread with rcu

Currently, there are many places that md_thread can be accessed without
protection, following are known scenarios that can cause
null-ptr-dereference or uaf:

1) sync_thread that is allocated and started from md_start_sync()
2) mddev->thread can be accessed directly from timeout_store() and
   md_bitmap_daemon_work()
3) md_unregister_thread() from action_store().

Currently, a global spinlock 'pers_lock' is borrowed to protect
'mddev->thread' in some places, this problem can be fixed likewise,
however, use a global lock for all the cases is not good.

Fix this problem by protecting all md_thread with rcu.

Signed-off-by: Yu Kuai <yukuai3@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230523021017.3048783-6-yukuai1@huaweicloud.com